Universal Arena For A Complete Family

Complete Parenting

2010-06-18T02:34:00.001-07:00

There exists a relationship of intimacy and understanding between every parent and child. The only language that every new born knows is crying. Crying for hunger, pain, discomfort, fear etc.
As the infant grows the rhythm becomes mature and different. The infant has to register that he/she has to cry for food.Therefore feeding a baby when it is fast asleep is not advisable. The mother has to be fed on more of water containing diet like juices, yogurt, and buttermilk every 2 hours. Comfortable posture of the mother facilitates feeding and prevents backaches. To avoid splits in the skin around the breast make sure the baby’s mouth is full with the nipple. Every mother should make it a point to sleep well, and relax when the child is asleep.

Some working parents opt to bottle-feeds before 6 months, this is not advisable. Mothers feed gives resistance power to the baby, they are less prone to diarrhea, cold, cough and phlegm. Lactation also helps mothers to remain healthy and fit. Research has proved that the possibility of breast cancer is very less for lactating mothers. Every mother should take an oath that I will not deprive these benefits to my child .A child enters this world only out our acceptance, love, affection, and commitment. The child which has received its origin from us, Let feed it on nature’s tonic and not any artificial mixtures

Choice Of Second Child

2010-06-15T02:52:00.001-07:00

As mothers when we opt for a second child .We look towards rearing a second child for the sake of companionship of the first. But if the first one itself had no companionship of the working mother and was left with the baby sitter as their financial soundness was not sufficient by a single parent working or the mother is so career oriented that she did not want to opt being a home maker. Then one has to think twice before making a decision of a second child.” The mother can substitute everyone but no one can ever substitute a mother”.

The basic analysis one has to do before we make a decision for a second child is:-

Are we financially sound to support the needs of the second child .Dont create the demand and then go for providing the necessities.

Can the mother give the required attention? Are you ready to make compromises required for the second bond?
If the answer to all theses questions is a confidence “Yes” then opt for a second child. Now try avoiding making omissions that you made for the first child. Try to fill in the gaps of your experience from the first child. This time you are too cautious and balanced.

Allot time for both so that the first one does not feel ignored ,at the same time allot quality time for the second ,Take the help of the first child to bring that bond. Make the first feel his responsibility of taking care of the sibling. Talk to the first about how important his guidance is for the second. Include the second when you are narrating stories to the eldest. Avoid only making the second wear his sibling’s clothes. One or two exchanges are acceptable but not always. Let him not be a second hand.

Conduct activities in which both of them interested. Don’t force their participation into one co-curricular. Don’t be partial; this may lead to sibling jealousy. Don’t dictate terms to them, guide them, let them bloom with ease and not wither.

Parental –Mental Illness

2010-04-02T01:13:00.000-07:00

Most unfortunate are those children who have to cope up with parental mental illness. Among every 5 people facing mental illness one is a parent .These are confused people who are moody and in depression always.
The most common form of mental illness in a mother is the post partum depression. The short term depression after delivery but in some it worsens to post partum Psychosis, desire to harm the baby. This makes it difficult in bringing up children in a healthy atmosphere. The child gets to witness frequent quarrels in families, abuses either physically or verbally and constant instability in family relationships. The common challenges that these children experience are bullying by their classmates, frequent absenteeism and studies not catered to, low grades. The parents show least interest in the child’s academics and daily routine needs.
Thee children completely lose out on physical and mental intimacy with their parent. This could be minimized if the other parent can compensate for it. these defects tends to make the elder children lose their childhood as they have to handle responsibilities not right for their age like managing siblings, cooking ,taking care of the household etc.
The affected parent might avoid the child mingling with the outside world due to insecurity e.g. neighbors and therefore they are shut to the outside contacts. This may lead to depression in the child, due to isolation.
Research has proved that a child of a parent who is mentally ill experiences the same mental imbalance and tends to inherit some of the traits from their parents like fear, anxiety etc. The child is affected to a great extent if they have grown up with a mentally ill parent and have been subjected to abuses ,negligence, witnessed arguments, violence, seen parents misusing alcohol or drugs. They tend to assume that their future relationships and acquaintances might be with the same kind of people.
Ways to cope up with such illness so that you protect your child is if being a parent you feel you are too anxious violent or losing control please seek medical help and advice. If your partner is so then take help of your friends or relatives to protect your children from such contacts. Be the best and give the best to your child after all they deserve it. Spread the signs of positive and perfect parenting.

Dating –Single Parent

2010-03-24T10:19:00.000-07:00

Dating which was once said in whispers has become, so common nowadays. Especially “Single Parent Dating” The thought never occurred to single parents earlier, not thought to be comfortable idea. But in the recent past and today it is thought to be very common and in our society it has become an acceptable fact. Still it always is shouldering of a huge responsibility if the parent has children. Maintaining a balance between the two is a heavy task if not organized and co-coordinated in advance.
Every step resorted by you has to be revised and thought before implemented as every single moment will reflect the life of the child. A simple date can cause depression in the child who is already down with the separation from one parent maybe due to death or divorce.
Confirm with your date about their ideas of children and if it is about hating kids then better move away. Your compromise on your child for the new person in your life is too an expensive affair.
Do not think of introducing your date to your children at a early stage hoping to build a close bond between them. This may lead to stress if your date disappears from their lives. Sudden inclusions in your Childs life may also prove to be disgusting for your child.
Be slow and steady before you get into long potential dating .If your date is genuine they would respect your feelings and understand the need for such slow progress. Don’t thrust the acceptance of your date on your child. Introduce the situation and leave it to them to decide. If it is positive then things will proceed smoothly else if you feel your date is worth it then be firm in emphasizing the reason to demand courtesy and politeness in your child’s behavior towards your date.
Be understanding and guide them to make their adjustments. Let your date not exercise parental authority on your child. Leave your child to accept the relationship themselves.
No matter how long and serious your dating has been the topic of remarriage brings in a lot of confused emotions in your child, of being insecure and abandoned in the future. What changes and adjustments they will have to make by the entry of a new individual in their lives.
Talk it out to your child, respect their emotions and feelings. Make them understand that this inclusion of your date will never bring about a division or any parting of your affection and love. In fact it is only a widening of the family circle, including one more person to share the bond of your love. A person who would equally extend their support, and security to your child.

Non-Biological Moms-Step Parenting

2010-03-24T10:13:00.000-07:00

When Parenting is a challenging task, why not step parenting too with its hurdles and risks. Step Parenting is the most difficult but a noble task.
The child who is undergoing feelings of anger, jealousy and fear with a replacement of his parent with a step mother, brother and sister has reached this stage may be due to death or divorce, has to be handled with complete understanding, care and support and with a sense of commitment and love. His actions are mostly not intentional; it is only an outlet of his fear and anxiety. Sometimes your silence and listening attitude helps him better than your words.
At the same time please intimate it to the child that you would not tolerate disrespect though you care for him and you are always there on his side. Move away when he is either physically or verbally abusive allow him to calm down and then make him understand your support available to him.
Expecting for acceptance immediately is not reasonable. Definitely there is retaliation as acceptance may mean betrayal of biological parent according to the child. Be patient time and your affection and care would bring about the change.
Spend at least 15 mins with each one of them in a day. Spend those moments to have fun and do what both of you enjoy. Even the biological parent can do the same. Enforcement of discipline techniques should be done by the biological parent. Let it be equally done between your children and the others.
Concentrate on strengthening your relationship with the child rather than abusing their biological parents no matter however bad they might have been. This tends to make the child lose respect for you.
Strengthen your relationship with your spouse. This will help you to handle tough situations. Never miss your romances with your spouse. Keep a balance between your family and your marriage. Be peaceful, calm and avoid stress. Talk it out to your friend or a counselor. Always think positive. The blood relationship proves sometimes weaker to the bond built through love and care. Stretch out your heart; be genuine in your actions and your emotions. The key to positive parenting lies right in your hands.

Lactation - sign of positive Parenting

2010-03-15T02:36:00.000-07:00

The primary intake for the baby is the mother’s feed. There should be no doubt as far as this is concerned. During the final days of pregnancy the “Cholestrom” starts to secrete. If this is the first child then the secretion lasts for 2 days after pregnancy.
This secretion contains very important ingredients. It has a high content of resistant antibodies that prevents diseases. It also has a high percentage of white blood corpuscles. It is slightly yellow in color and a sticky dense liquid. It is secreted only in a small quantity, but sufficient enough to satisfy the hunger of the new born, whose capacity to consume is only 5-10 ml.
The infant should be fed in a very comfortable manner. Every positive parent should believe that my feed is the best for my child. Every parent should take an oath that I would not resort to anything without doctor’s advice as this would affect my child.
It definitely takes some days for the infant to learn the technique of sucking. Mother’s feed can be categorized as pre and post .The first milk is more diluted when compared to the latter. The nutrient value of the latter is more.
The former satisfies thirst while the latter satisfies hunger. The infant has to be fed whenever it cries, no matter it is once in 30 minutes. An infant should be fed only when it is awake. It has to understand the meaning of hunger. How to indicate its hunger and who to approach .These could be practiced only when the infant is awake.
A hungry infant cannot continue to sleep. Therefore there is no need to disturb a sleeping infant and feed it. There is a subject of doubt in the minds of the mother that the milk in the breast tends to get spoilt if unfed for a very long time. That is not true as the secretion happens only when the child feeds on the milk.
Posture while feeding the infant is very important. The infant should be fed sitting in a comfortable position not lying down posture as this affects the ears of the infant.
The infant should be lactated compulsorily for the first 6 months .Infants that have been lactated for 6 months seem to be more innovative, happy, smart children in the future. Let’s grow up healthy and nourished children and fulfill the strategy of perfect parenthood.

“Eye” am Different

2010-03-15T01:35:00.001-07:00

The most common ailments occurring to the Vision are glycoma, long sight, short sight, sty, boils, and dry eyes. The signs of such ailments are difficulty in seeing in the dark, reddish eyes, eye irritation and swelling, pain in and around the eye, secretion in the eye, lack of clarity in vision, confused vision and colorless vision.
Blinking of the eyes helps in keeping eyes clean and humid. It is also a method of defense to protect the eyes. Blinking frequency is almost 10, 00,000 in a year. The eye muscles works at a greater frequency than all the other muscles in our body.
There is a false belief among people that wearing an earring improves vision. Research has proved that wearing a tight tie increases the probability of glycoma. Reading in dim light lays greater stress on the eye. Always read with the light falling on the material you are reading and not light falling on your shoulders.
The best vegetable to improve vision is carrot and fruits are papaya, strawberry, orange and grapes.
It is always better to monitor your Blood pressure and sugar levels to protect your vision. Wearing sunglasses to protect from UVA and UVB rays, dust, pollution and damage while playing or driving is advisable.
An eye test can be made once in 3 months to detect any defect. Your eye is very different and more precious organ of your body. It is required for our independence and confidence. Give your vision a different dimension of protection and care.

Parent :Teacher in Education

2010-03-08T01:57:00.000-08:00

There is a great need for parental involvement in both the extra curricular s and in the education process.Children spend most of their time at home.I would not say with the parents as today most of the children spend more time with baby sitters rather than with their parents.I would prefer if the parents contribute the maximum towards their childrens' mental and social intelligence.
Parents need to have a better understanding about which activities their child is comfortable with and with which they are not .The teachers definitely land up with a strong rapport with the children most often but they can never substitute or duplicate the strong bond between the parent and the child.What requires the teacher a very long time can be accomplished by the parent in a very short span.Parents should understand and utilize the advantages they possess over that of a teacher and ensure that they pay more attention towards their child.This helps in attaining better performance for the child and greater interest in the learning process.
The parents understanding of their child also acts like a benchmark tool in helping the teacher to guide the child in the learning process.
Parenting and Teacher are the parallel processes that grooms the child's complete mental and emotional state of mind.If both the parents and the teachers co-ordinate and work together hand in hand complimenting one another there is nothing that cannot be achieved by the child.
Most often the child tends to play one against the other with these two entities.The reason being the lack of communication between the parent and the teacher.The child tends to view them separately and there is a big gap between the child and the parent.The teacher and the parent , the parent and the child ,the child and the teacher which hinders the smooth learning process.
A good level of communication between the teacher and the parents ensures a smooth learning system and guarantees the child's good performance at school and at home simultaneously.

Happy Parenting

2010-03-02T00:39:00.000-08:00

Kids’ social intelligence starts at home right from their birth, with parent as leading them. There is a need for perfect parenting to develop a sound social intelligence. Such parenting requires less of paper work but more of practical knowledge. Social growth is a round the clock phenomenon from the time he wakes up till he goes to bed. There is an absolute necessity to define clear rules and duties and to guide them with the energized and enthusiastic parenting.

When a child misbehaves as a sign of good parenting we have to identify whether he has done it on purpose or because there is a lack of knowledge. And then it is our primary responsibility as parents to provide him that information unambiguously and happily. Instead we land up on him with shower of abuses. This is a failure on our part of parenting. We as parents should guide them through the process and teach them how to behave and make sure he retains such merits. But if the child has committed the mistake intentionally it becomes difficult on our part to perform our parenting on the calmer side. Let me tell you how to handle such situations. This is a long term process and cannot be achieved overnight.

Do your teaching happily and frequently.
Assign awards for completion of responsibilities and penalty for incomplete work to every family member.
Allocate privileges to specific members based on status in family.
Avoid the stick methodology while parenting.
Identify the virtues in your children and keep mentioning about their merits .

Exhibit your best care and support in the form of parenting to gain a happy and proud parenting life.

Lesson Of Responsibility

2010-02-18T01:01:00.000-08:00

We as parents should make an effort to teach children how to be reponsible.You can teach them only when you are so.Before you take them to task for being late,make sure you are punctual.They pick up their cue from our activities , so always be an example.

Treat your child with respect, Emphasize on how his /her contributin is important for your family.Always dont keep disapproving , if their actions do not meet your expectations.Do not nag them for the slightest mistakes they commit.

Get her used to the daily routine , Gradually.Make it a step by step process.Dont make it a strenuous task for them.Do not confuse them.This systematic process will make them stable in their teens.Entrust them with little things and gradually increase their tasks.

Assigning Responsibilities- Assign a new responsibility on their birthday every year

1-2 years
learn to water plants with your supervision,throw garbage in the bin , arrange things, say "please " and "thankyou."

3-4years
making cards , clean up things,arrange articles,eat , fold their clothes,make choice of dresses,phone mannerisms,memorise numbers.

4-5years
Taking care of pets,get a piggy bank

5-6years
Show an interest in helping younger siblings,Squeeze out the toothpaste,Maintain tidiness in rooms,Making the bed.

6-7years
Tightening screws,fill the waterbottle,make small decisions.

8-10 years
Personal cleanliness,take care of the garden

Teenagers

stitching buttons,packing,cooking little things,selection of subjects , saving ,operating bank accounts.

Distribute the tasks,Make a chart,Assign duties to your kids,Rotate the tasks once a week.Do not overtask them,Let them specialise and Gain perfection and not lead to frustration.

Acknowledge their efforts dont give false praises.Do not redo the task,make corrections.Do not criticise , this may lead to shirking of responsibilities in adulthood.Encourage them.Give your contribution as parents.Mutual help is essential.Trust them,let them feel secure.This gives them enthuiasm,self esteem,boosts their self confidence and gives a sense of contentment.This will bring a great change in their lives no matter whatever challenges are thrown open to them.

Parenting a Boon & Pride

2010-02-01T00:57:00.000-08:00

The birth of a baby brings happiness only when co-operation, love and understanding prevail between the parents. “God made two dolls to play with man and woman; they in turn made dolls for them to play with”
Animals do undergo reproduction; they teach their children to look out for food. They are taught to handle dangers. This process of their reproduction can neither be prevented nor postponed. As animals have no reasoning capacity, the frontal area of the brain “prefrontal cortex” is not growing. This leads to reproduction being their first emotions after maturity.
Mankind is at the heights of maturity and growth. He is well educated and has extreme reasoning power. His prefrontal cortex attains maturity between the ages of 22-24 years. Now he is in a position to control his emotions with his thoughts. This society is greatly influenced by the thoughts and vibrations of previous generations. We have to be grateful to our ancestors for the teachings imparted to us.
In spite of these regulated thoughts some of us indulge and fall a prey to our emotions and feelings of lust at a very early age and get involved in premarital sex.
They fall a prey to such relationships even before they are fully grown, not fully learnt and not settled. Where is the need for such early sex?
The estrogen and testosterone hormones cause this attraction when they are secreted into our bloodstream. But how far do we control such emotions with the help of our prefrontal cortex by our thoughts is the yardstick for our growth and mental maturity.
This care and attention given by the parents, our thoughts, guidance and support helps to regulate the ideas and emotions and makes teenagers understand the real meaning behind pre-marital sex. The more attention we offer to our kids the lesser are they prone to such negative vibrations. The more secured the children feel the safer are they from such deviations and distractions.
We should correct our children without any frustrations , be at their side during difficult situations .Give them stable affection, even if they do not live up to our expectations, our children are our treasure,. Don’t give them up no matter whatever situation occurs.
What do children expect from us? Love, Affection, Good opinions, Care and Support. It is enough if you give them this assurance. All our activities, words should be accompanied with our love. With our affection they will be in a position to grow up to be better human beings and face the challenges in life. This is the primary duty of each parent. Let us make ourselves proud parents growing up such children.

Nobody Understands Me - III

2010-01-25T02:44:00.000-08:00

All of us crave to see the smiling infant when we carry them or caress them. Even small kids prefer touching infants when they see them. The idea behind this blog is to emphasize on how important is parenting and how we are going to make the best use of the wonderful opportunity given to us. We can be complete parents only if we take parenting as a loving commitment and a pleasure in our wedded life, rather than a social responsibility an imposed routine in one’s life after marriage. We will have to enjoy every moment of parenting and experience the challenging moments as a process of learning.
Children grow very fast ,years will just pass by , without realizing that those years have been spent , we suddenly repent that we have not enjoyed or cherished those beautiful moments. Decision of the sex of the child is the nature’s beauty. It is not under the control of the human being. Nobody can be without getting surprised by the law of nature .The wife is promoted to the status of motherhood by the process of conceiving. She is not only raised to this level but also is accompanied by an important responsibility of parenting.
One has to start thinking about how to ensure a healthy baby. It is a combined responsibility of the father and the mother towards good parenting.
The organs of the baby is organized or formed in the first 3 months and they are capable of functioning independently in the last 3 months of pregnancy. it is very essential that the parents are in a very calm and a balanced mind during the duration for the welfare of the baby. The moments of the infant is felt during 18-20 weeks. One feels like a butterfly fluttering inside. The father is not in a position to experience this small wonder happening. These moments do not cause any irritation or suffocation it is mere pleasure.
The mother can feel the organs, at least the position of the little hands and legs and the breathing.
There is an important criterion that there should be a good relationship prevailing between the husband and wife before a child is born.A child cannot bridge the gap between the couple, this is a misconception that most couple’s think. They use the child as a tool to solve their issues. A mutual consent is required to decide in having a baby. Parents should never have the feeling that the child is an obstacle to their career, thoughts and activities. These emotions are essential and positive vibrations are a must before having a baby to ensure that the future of the baby and the parents is safe and secure.
Plan out your activities, determine the strength of your relationship, be strong in your desires, schedule your routine, organize your commitments, and estimate your strengths. Finally be prepared to receive your child into this world with dedication, love and sincerity. Make this world a wonderful place for the child to survive successfully and happily.

Reach out to your Lives

2010-01-20T00:58:00.001-08:00

Fear is a dangerous issue for most mankind. I am talking about the fear in the depths of our hearts. Take up to experiment what you fear.
Recently a film has been a super hit and is running successfully “Paranormal Activity” a small budget film of just $15000 has earned crores all over the world. The synopsis being “A young couple residing in a house feel the presence of a ghostly being and fix a camera to shoot the presence and realize that its true. What they experience is the film. The director of this film was a person who had a fear about ghosts. He wanted to overcome this fear and converted it into positive energy by directing a horror film about the same concept. Thus he won over his fear.
Fear does not pertain to only ghostly affairs but also other fears like fear to meet important persons, attending interviews, employers fear, fear of the husband /wife, undertaking new ventures, accepting new commitments, undertaking challenges and risks. In most cases a precautionary feeling and preventive feeling also is an outlet of fear.
First plan out your activities towards achievement of your ideas without any hesitation or fear .As a teacher to address a class of 100 students might be challenging. If you are a director you have to lead like a captain of a ship, might have to face new situations and provide solutions. All these have only one remedy face each fear with courage and determination as it comes. Face your fear directly; don’t let it dominate your ideas. Plan your activities or organize the activities required for your new assignments, reason out your risks, gather adequate information on the subject, before commencing your tasks.
Fear in kids is very minimal nowadays. Today’s kids are so exposed to the outside world right when they are small that they do not fear much. This is so harmful as confidence is good to be appreciated but over confidence is very risky. We as parents have the duty of ensuring that our kids are on the right track, warning them is good but threats often lead to adamancy and curiosity to undertake faulty ventures.
Be always supportive and friendly enough to know their daily activities and to read their inner self, to be able to place checks wherever required and to avoid them deviate from the right channels. Talking accompanied with listening skills helps to go a long way in this process.
Stretch out to them to help them overcome fear and convert their fears into positive vibrations.

Limitation on teens Lingiuistic skills

2010-01-15T20:40:00.000-08:00

Research has proved that the linguistic growth of the teenagers of the current generation is being stagnated, by limiting their daily vocabulary to 800 words when 1000 words are the minimum for daily communication. This might make them unemployable, the culprit being internet and chat rooms.
Over the past few years we have been seeing similar reactions to the evolution of language as it adapts to modern modes of communication .A changing vocabulary is not equal to limited ability to express oneself. The cognitive skills of teenagers have deteriorated in recent times. The cause could lie elsewhere than the adoption of new technology.
A deep concern is expressed over the diminishing language skills of school students. This has been in an increasing degree in societies where children use truncated forms of spellings. It becomes boring to use complete sentences. But chatting online parties understand what each other was trying to say. But the virtual world is not far away from the real. What we do there, how we speak the way we process information influences our day to day vocabulary. This affects our linguistic skills.
The average vocabulary of school children is deteriorating. For an intelligible communication there is a need of 1000 words but what is practiced now is 800 words. This is a serious handicap to students. Most of the words being “Yeah”,”Ya”,”But”,”Wow”!,””Hey”. This is more to butchering of language than simplifying it. Let us be more expressive at the same time maintain our vocabulary using complete sentences and use maximum and correct words.

Laughter a Healthy Therapy

2010-01-15T20:38:00.001-08:00

Laughter is represented as a healthy therapy for kids. Without laughter people are replaced by an emotion or by a smiley. Laughing emotion is replacement of the ordinary (( with a }} curly one. Our Search Engines come with different combinations .There are still some people who respond to a piece of hilarity as if it is a physics chapter. Some audiences of the humor play still continue to keep their lips tight and their grins reserved for a different time. This is mere avoidance not postponement. Humor is something that saves, which uplifts us from our daily, routine traumas, so laugh your stress out. I don’t mean act like a insane being, but to emphasize more on reasoning and planning than to sob in bitter moments .Utilize moments of humor to laugh and enjoy, this could give you the energy to face challenges during difficult times.
Humor is such a feeling that lightens our soul and makes us aware of our capabilities .Humor is one such tool. It becomes more potent within our consciousness in its ability to produce a happy soul. There is a saying “Where the soul is happy with a purity of thought, God is present there”, and with light souls it becomes easy to achieve your goals easily, without stress and pain. It promotes concentration and mental peace. It helps one contain a divine bliss as he not only is happy but also spreads happiness to the atmosphere around with positive vibrations.
Life is a blessing to all of us. Let’s live every moment, enjoying it and taking experiences lightly but at the same time learning from those experiences and leading our way towards our goals and avoiding the stress on our body ad mind. Let’s make the best use of the experiences in our life and laugh out our worries, stress, pain, sufferings and any sort of bitterness in our lives. Humor is a form of energy and is a good brain vitalizer.
Many medical practitioners have recommended laughter as a healing therapy for many ailments. So let’s promote happiness and support to our surroundings eradicating sadness and pain adopting the laughter therapy. Hilarious moments are very rare to find. Lets enjoy it every moment and benefit the most out of it.

A New Boon To Motherhood

2010-01-15T20:37:00.001-08:00

There are several reasons for not conceiving. Both the male and the female share the responsibility equally .The reasons for the female being hormonal imbalances, polycystic ovaries, blockage in the tubes, fibroid or septum i.e. Growth in the uterus. Science can solve all this .99% of such cases can be corrected by laparoscopy.
The cysts in the ovaries and cysts which measure up to 10cms can be removed with a puncture of 1cm.One can get discharged without surgery in a day and can resume normal routine within 2 days. Laproscopy can also help in removing blockages in the tubes. And 90% of the women have opportunities of conceiving after such treatment.
Growth of fibroids restricts the space for the growth of the fetus. This can be removed through hysteroscope.50% of the impotency in males is due to consumption of alcohol and smoking habits. Reducing or elimination of such habits is very essential .If the count is less than 5 million in males then the probability of reproduction is lesser. But nowadays with laparoscopic surgery the count can be increased by injecting the sperm from azoospermia into the ovaries.
Injecting the sperms into the uterus can be done if there is no blockage and if the count is greater than 5 million .This process is repeated 6 times. If this method fails then the method of test tube baby, IVF, ICSI makes 90% of the females to conceive computerized laser therapy is a boon to aged couples and those who have lost hope. Surrogate mothers are another remedy to this issue.
Those who have the strength of the mind, determination to perform are sure to become mothers. Technology is so flexible and affordable nowadays that the boon of becoming a mother is sure to be received by everybody.

A Poem Dedicated to Orphans who have the Almighties Support

2010-01-10T01:59:00.000-08:00

I roamed all alone the busy streets

Wherever went my little feet

I saw children play with sweet little smiles

I was lost in them for a while

Who left me alone in this world

A chill ran through me very cold

I am a motherless son

These people called me by the name ORPHAN

I too want a loving mother

To play a cute little brother

My life is full of woes

They quoted my life as PATHOS

I am the fruit of somebody's sin

My cradle was this streets dustbin

My daily food was the left over and the thrown

Thus all alone in this world I have grown

Nobody to lend a helping hand

Unknown I live as a particle of sand

Lactation

2010-01-10T01:56:00.000-08:00

Considering moms who are very particular about not lactating.Misinterpreting it to be a prolonged bad habit for the kid.Its a proven fact that lactation is completely safe for the child and the mother, As it prevents breast cancer for the mother and provides a sense of intimacy betwen the kid and the mother.It builds a sense of closeness and love for the child.I do agree that lactation can be stopped after 11 months.By then the child develops a sense of resistance.It also initiates the idea of aroma therapy for the kid.She or He learn to sense the existence of the mother by her very aroma and touch.They develop a sense of security and love for the mother. I do agree that lactation can be weened on or after 11 months of delivery as Doctors say that after 11 months the child does not derive any nutrition from the mother as it has started normal food habits but the mother on the other hand needs to maintain proper food habits if she continues

Your Kids first tiny step into School

2010-01-10T01:53:00.000-08:00

The first school or the preschool for the kid is the most special experience the toddler learns to cope up with during early childhood. Her interest in Education will also depend on what children learn during those first six years of her schooling. A sudden change in kids routine, habits and emotions. Being a mother of a 31/2 year old, I remember how she used to control her feelings, not wanting to accept her how she finds it difficult to be dropped into school in the early hours of the day. The days of the week when she has to be forcibly removed from her father's side, slowly ,and to be made to have her bath, and made to speed up the process of her bathing and dressing. I still remember the very tone of rushing into school made her sad and tears gushing down those very tiny eyes half closed.

As parents it is our primary duty to make sure our kids are comfortable with schooling. It is not essential to be a perfect parent to be a complete parent. Especially the mother. We have to make sure that schooling be made best for our children. As parents I feel that we have to be complete parents to express our gratitude towards our kids who have designated us as parents, they definitely deserve this for having given us this opportunity of being their parents.

The tendency among parents in the UK and the USA is to focus on children’s acquisition of academic skills from an early age in order to give them a head start. Here academic skills mean reading, writing, and arithmetic A significantly higher percentage of fathers than mothers consider academic skills to be the most important whereas a noticeably higher percentage of mothers than fathers consider skills such as communication, curiosity, and problem solving to be the most important for their children before entering school.Parents of lower income group undergo more stress than the higher income group.

Is there a stress to prepare children for school?

Yes, Definitely, Income and social parameters seem to influence stress in connection with

preparing a child for school issues. Apparently preparing boys to go to school is slightly more stressful than preparing the girls. If the mother is working, the family will be more likely to experience a certain level of stress in preparing the little one for school than the families where the mother is not working.

Stress can affect anyone who feels overwhelmed — even kids. In preschoolers, separation from parents can cause anxiety. As kids get older, academic and social pressures (getting accommodated) create stress.

Discussion of matters of finance, illness or relationships when kids are near should be thought over. World news can cause stress. Kids who see disturbing images on TV or hear talk of natural disasters, war, and terrorism during early childhood may worry about their own safety and that of the people they love. Talk to your kids about what they see and hear, and monitor what they watch on TV so that you can help them understand what's going on.

Ten Tips to stabilize first steps of Schooling for our children

1. Listen to your child . One of the most common mistakes parents make is ignoring their child's complaints, especially if you are not consciously aware of doing so. Listen to what is not being said . There are just some kids that would rather not talk, or would go around the subject in a very roundabout way. If such is the case with your children, then it would be best to observe his or her reactions or mannerisms. Check with his peers.

1. Learn about the school its routine, activities, teacher student relationships, their promises and goals attained and targeted. This can be done maximum from the school scheduler if you could get one and some from the other kids who are into the same school.

1. See that your children are mentally prepared for schooling ie. Talk to him about the exciting things he can find in school especially something new like his friends, learning and playing in large groups. Eating with his peers. The fun activities in school.

1. Also be aware of the factors of death, illness, divorce .These may result in a mental trauma and can cause reluctance in attending school. Talking and understanding the child’s mind may reduce stressful situations.

5. Stay cool and patient while preparing your children for school, bear up with the initial resistance and stay calm. Try your maximum to convince your kids in the smoother way.

6. Don’t show that you’re tensed about the hectic morning routine of preparing your children to school.

7. Please have the listening attitude even after the kids return back after school, this becomes difficult for working parents, but make sure you allot some time for it, at least while you have your breakfast or dinner or sometime after dinner. This proves your sense of concern for the children and instills interest in their daily activities.

8. Avoid discussing your problems and areas of stress before kids to the maximum.

9. Do not force them or threaten children with the idea of going to school to make them perform a particular task, this makes them get an aversion to schooling.

10. Have a constant feedback from their teachers, peers and parents about their school, about them and their daily activities. Try to attend all meetings arranged by the school.

I believe that the more joy, confidence, and initiative we feed into children and with our continued guidance and support children begin to enjoy schooling to the maximum and school becomes a better place, and as always promised a second home.

Nature’s Healing Scents-Aromatherapy for Kids

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Many essential oils are gentle and safe for kids daily use. But consultation with a Aromatherapy practitioner would be advisable to check for any allergies or contradictions for each child. These essential oils are extremely safe ,organic and natural and could be used for dealing with “psychological and behavioral problems”.

Kids as young as six weeks are receptive to fragrances (favourite being mothers scent ) this proves their adaptiveness to benefits of Aromatherapy. Usage of these Essential oils for kids should be done by diluting them with water or carier oils to prevent skin irritation.

Benefits of aromatherapy can be given to your child in the following ways.

1.Massaging the oil after diluting it

2.Fill a bowl with water , add 5-15 drops of essential oil and light a candle.

3.Pour 2-3 drops of essential oil in a tissue and let your child inhale.

4.Pour a few drops of oil in a napkin and put it under the kids pillow.

5.Add few drops of Essential oils to an electrical diffuser and let it spray in frequent intervals.

6.Lavender , sandalwood ,tea tree.rose geranium can be mixed with sea salt and added to bathing water( 4 drops in half tablespoon).

Precautions while using essential oils

1.Let not children ingest the oil.Keep them out of reach of children.

2.Dont use essential oils during pregnancy without consulting the physician.

3.Let not Essential oils get into the nose ,eyes,ears or mucous membrane of your chills. 4.Do not expose them to these Essential oils if the child is suffering from heart or kidney problems or has a sensitive skin without medical advice.

5.Always use Essential oils after diluting them.

Serial No.	Name of essential oil	Quantity	Medium	Ailment treated
1	Lavender Oil	Mix 4 drops with carrier oil	Massage into body	Gives peaceful sleep,clears acne
2	Mandarin oil	Mix 2 drops with carrier oil	Massage or add in bathing water	Clears stress,treats chronic insomnia
3	Eucalyptus oil	Mix few drops with carrier oil	Steam inhaler	Clears nasal lung congestion and bad cold
4	Sandalwood oil	Mix 2-3 drops with carrier oil	Massage or add in bathing water	Relieves anxiety,nightmares and exam stress.
5	Spearmint and pepper mint oil	Mix few drops with carrier oil	Electrical diffuser	Enhances memory and concentration
6	Ginger oil	Mix few drops with carrier oil	Massage or use an inhaler	Treats stomach upsets or constipation
7	Tea tree oil	Mix few drops with carrier oil	Massage or use an inhaler	Clears acne,wound healing,wipes out dandruff,relieves pain and itching.

Parenting Wisdom

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Approach your children with a cheerful attitude , parents zeal will bring about a sense of confidence and care into your child. Do not get, at least try not to show your frustration, when you are in contact with them.

Try not to compare your child with their neighbors. No two children are the same. Focus on their true talents and don’t thrust your interest on them. Some children may take 4 hours to learn something that others take just an hour to learn. Never hurry them up to follow your routine.

Open up your communication channels for your children in times of difficulties and challenges. Find what’s bothering them. Watch out for special traits in them. This is their potential, we might overlook them. Make decisions for them using your heart not your mind. Only then you would be happy.

Your children would flourish based on the moral values, spiritual principles and a sense of confidence that you are always with them to encourage and support them. Enjoy their uniqueness. Learn to accept the beautiful surprises they give you by choosing their favorite careers.

Learn to adapt yourself to changes over time, do not remain stagnated, and do not follow preconceived notions. Welcome your children into your lives with a smile, when they are successful and offer them your support and advice when they approach you for help.

There are different styles in raising children

Parenting tips

1. Provide encouragement and guidance

2. Make appropriate supervision

3. Provide Opportunities for them to make decision

4. Be forgetful when they are disrespectful with you without any intention.

5. Learn to read body language.

6. Pay importance to their underlying emotions.

It is your duty as parents to well nurture them and send them out to this world as a balanced individual filled with confidence and courage to face the challenging world.

Lost Homes and Smiles

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Charity is a complementary term for “Chastity”, Chastity of one’s soul .Purity of one’s thoughts and actions. One has to contain genuine affection, humanity towards your fellow beings, the human race. Learning to love those around us, Those who are existing in the common abode of God, this world. Let us come out and not restrain ourselves to these four rigid walls made of only bricks, an ambience of no emotions or feelings, not in a position to neither realize our innerself nor the sufferings of our fellow beings around us.

I do definitely agree that we are all amidst a very busy schedule but do we not spare a few minutes for ourselves. Lets part with a little portion of those few minutes and dedicate those moments for those small tiny souls left all alone in this world with none to share give or express their emotions, nobody to comfort these kids in times of distress or give them proper guidance.

We can be very plain in saying “Does my contributions really reach these kids?”.

“I don’t believe in the functioning of these institutions” .But if everyone of us were to doubt and withdraw, then who would take the initiative and rescue these kids from the trauma of loneliness and distress?. Who would fulfill their needs? They are also in need of a helping hand .A hand to guide, and support. True hearts to atleast ensure love and satisfy their basic needs.

Your contribution can just be a small penny or a lump sum. What is important is that tiny thought and genuine initiative. A small way of expressing your gratitude to the almighty for having blessed us a little more and we can promise and relieve others burden of life with our fortunes.

Answers to our Where and How?

1. Choose the right institution -You can make a sudden personal visit to these institutions if time permits or enquire about these from people you know.

2. Select the type -Are you performing the charity only on special occasions like your birthdays, Christmas, New Year or something like an annual sponsor, for a specific purpose only like fees for the little one providing books or being a guardian a god father or mother, or adoption. This depends on your own financial worth and also your priorities.

3. Choosing the media -It would always be better to perform charity personally to lay emphasis on how mush you care for the little one .Fix a monthly or once in six months schedule to drop into the institution and watch the daily activities, talk to the child, get the child’s opinion, share your ideas and guidance. Or a pen correspondence amidst your busy schedule might also help.

I have experiences the pleasure and satisfaction one would get during those visits on my husband’s birthdays.I think it gives one utmost joy than being in a party with our friends who possess all the good things in life. It’s a great feeling to be someone’s support.

After all these faultless kids do deserve to enjoy and experience all the best things we are going through in life.

This New Year I definitely hope one of the first resolutions that we are going to make is visiting an orphanage and does our best we can to make this year special also for those kids there.

Let’s make this world around us a very happy place to live in for every child not only in our homes but also in the homes of the abandoned. Let’s stretch ourselves a little to bring them closer to our hearts.Lets work together to restore the lost smiles and homes of these innocent children.

Nobody Understands Me-Part I

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Every Baby gifts us a new world.The cry of a baby is 5the unforgettable greenery .Spring season of every mother's life.Inspite of laying emphasis on how important is mothers feed for the baby still most mothers feed their young ones with powder milk.Still mothers fail to realise and identify the cause of the kids sleepless nights of discomfort.Some mothers worry about how lean their kid is and some are proud of their plumpy children.Both parents should understand that only a normal stature can help their child to be a healthy and balanced adult.

Todays motherhood is mostly dependant on the doctors instructions and less confident about their upbringing.Ofcourse the major cause for this is time constraint and their busy schedules.Children grow up more with babysitters than with their parents.Nothing can be more soothing than the warmth of the mothers clutch.The baby which has so long remained in the warmth of the mothers womb,Does it continue to get the security and nurturing once it is out.We concentrate more on the taste than nutrition.Some parents are not mentally prepared to accept a child if they are not born according to their expectations.No matter however the baby is born it is the duty of the parents to bring them up with genuine affection and care.There are N number of questions popping up during the process of child upbringing.Lets all be together and face the difficulties and challenges during this process and contribute towards a committed society and a complete family.

Unfriending

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In this age of this passion severely and to come out of party networking maintaining a private life is fitting increasingly testing.You want to segment your newest rest movies with a close alone of yours.However you are incapable to do so for terror of these pictures being seen by other contacts who aren’t that close to you.Now to make life plain for netizens and give their passwords to their friends to change it so that they cannot log onto it.So netizens lure up with the virtual world.Some children ignore their grades.Its always better to continue our confines as far as such sites are fretful.Teenagers want to resolve such issues,Social networking sites have thankfully come up your socks and exploit the technology to absorb its profit and to benefit and not want to see on your networking page.Atleast 9.9 billion teenagers have absolute to unfriend their links .They think that shared networkingrevolving into a titanic obsession.

These sites can be fun but the difficult arises when people start ignoring their families and keep in finger with an ingenious selection.You can unfriend people you do not to elude from it.

Common Causes of Toothache

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There is no relationship between winter and toothache. This season can cause toothaches if the enamel is not protected. Yearly once you need to have a dental checkup and collect details .Your problems might be due to the following reasons:- Consuming painkillers is considered to be a problem solving technique by most people. But that would only result in removal of the tooth, due to tooth decay. It also results in the danger of the decay spreading to the other tooth. If there is a need to remove your tooth unless you make sure you replace the tooth it would be both difficult to eat at the same time the supporting tooth and your jaw bones would be eroded. Some have gums related “Juvenile Periodentitis” disease which causes hormone imbalance and this result in the shaking of tooth. Scaling is done to remove the stains under the gums. Then as the gums gain strength the shaking of the teeth stops. “Chronic Periodentitis” dissolves the bones under the gums. This affects the gums and the teeth. Even after exclusion of the tooth if tooth decay persists then an x-ray would help in removal of the damaged bones. Brushing twice a day is recommended ,Use the mouthwash suggested by your dentist. Avoid fried and sticky munchies. Consume raw carrots as much as possible.

Nobody Understands Me-Part II

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The birth of the young one is moments to be cherished. But today’s parents look forward to those moments with fear, reason being the lack of confidence in parenting. Some are worried about it right from the time the infant is in the womb. They fail to enjoy that precious phenomenon and do not find time to appreciate the process gifted to them.

Every emotion processed in the mind of the mother indirectly has an adverse effect on the growth of the baby. This has been proved by scientific research. The infant in the womb of the mother grows enjoying the melody of the heart beat of the mother, the pampering and confidence and support rendered by the father, smiles and joy of the mother.

The care of the grandparents, the tight clutch of the husband, nutritious food, and proper medical attention contributes to the proper growth of the fetus. The fetus grows in the womb in a temperature of 37 degrees for 280 days. When it is released into this world the room temperature being 27 degrees the infant feels the cold temperature when compared to the warmth of the uterus, and gives the initial cry, which gives a sense of relief to the mother.

“I am alone, will somebody take care of me and give me the same warmth” the cry continues until the mother clutches the infant. Sometimes babies are kept under warm rays. They are wrapped in warm clothing this confirms and comforts the baby of the secured surrounding. The infant naturally acquires the warmth by rubbing and kicking its hands and feet. At this moment the warmth of the mother is the best for the baby.

Some mothers still fear carrying their baby, fear handling potty habits fear feeding. Some learn to handle these by reading books. Still practically there is some hesitation, when it comes to grow up infants. Some rumors about the difficulties of parenting expressed by others also influence us and might cause this fear. We need to understand the intricate details of pregnancy and delivery.

The fetus attains the capability of living outside the womb only after 40 weeks. Infants born between 37-42 weeks are normal babies while those born before 37 weeks are premature. This calculation is made from the date of the last menstrual cycle for 40 weeks or 280 days. The normal weight of the baby is 2.5-3.5 kg. Conceiving at a very young age may cause premature babies to be born as the mother’s womb would not have attained the capability for carrying and growth of the fetus.

Fruitful Tips for Glowing Skin

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We have been considering fruits necessary only from healthy living. But these have been proved to be essential for healthy, glowing and clear skin. They are a source of vitamins, minerals, carbohydrates and act as an antioxidants .These protect the skin from the harmful UV rays. The skin absorbs the vitamins from the juice applied as packs on the skin.This increase the elasticity and glow of the skin. This has been the reason why our ancestors have included vegetables and fruits in all beauty products.

Primary fruit used for skin care is PAPAYA , which contains the “papain” enzyme. This nourishes and helps I the growth of new cells, promotes the smoothening of the skin. It acts as a moisturizer and also promotes healing of marks and acts as an anti aging agent. Papaya paste if applied prevents acne. Papaya face pack helps to promote the growth of new cells and gives soft and supple skin. The anti-bacterial agent helps to heal wounds and burns.

Pomegranate -It is a powerful antioxidant and prevents the damage of cells. It fights aging signs as it increases the life of cologne, elastic in and fibroblasts cells. It slows down the damage of these cells.

Avocado -This fruit contains a high percentage of Vitamin A, B, C and E and is therefore used in high quality beauty products. It has potassium element which promotes soft skin, moisturizes and nourishes the skin. It clears stretch marks and scars on the skin. Vitamin A and Vitamin B contents, control oil content in the skin, and balance the skin looks. Vitamin C prevents sunburns. It maintains the level of Cologen.

Complete Skin Care means

1. Nutrition -Provides the maximum nourishment to your skin. Consumption of the right food, balanced diet of fruits and vegetables.

2. Protection from pollution, UV rays, dust dirt and sweat.

3. Moisture -Provide enough moisturizer to maintain soft, healthy and clear skin.

Consumption of Vitamin E & A fights signs of aging, protection against UV rays and using anti-oxidants assures healthy and clear skin.