Choice Of Second Child

As mothers when we opt for a second child .We look towards rearing a second child for the sake of companionship of the first. But if the first one itself had no companionship of the working mother and was left with the baby sitter as their financial soundness was not sufficient by a single parent working or the mother is so career oriented that she did not want to opt being a home maker. Then one has to think twice before making a decision of a second child.” The mother can substitute everyone but no one can ever substitute a mother”.

The basic analysis one has to do before we make a decision for a second child is:-

Are we financially sound to support the needs of the second child .Dont create the demand and then go for providing the necessities.

Can the mother give the required attention? Are you ready to make compromises required for the second bond?
If the answer to all theses questions is a confidence “Yes” then opt for a second child. Now try avoiding making omissions that you made for the first child. Try to fill in the gaps of your experience from the first child. This time you are too cautious and balanced.

Allot time for both so that the first one does not feel ignored ,at the same time allot quality time for the second ,Take the help of the first child to bring that bond. Make the first feel his responsibility of taking care of the sibling. Talk to the first about how important his guidance is for the second. Include the second when you are narrating stories to the eldest. Avoid only making the second wear his sibling’s clothes. One or two exchanges are acceptable but not always. Let him not be a second hand.

Conduct activities in which both of them interested. Don’t force their participation into one co-curricular. Don’t be partial; this may lead to sibling jealousy. Don’t dictate terms to them, guide them, let them bloom with ease and not wither.