When Parenting is a challenging task, why not step parenting too with its hurdles and risks. Step Parenting is the most difficult but a noble task.
The child who is undergoing feelings of anger, jealousy and fear with a replacement of his parent with a step mother, brother and sister has reached this stage may be due to death or divorce, has to be handled with complete understanding, care and support and with a sense of commitment and love. His actions are mostly not intentional; it is only an outlet of his fear and anxiety. Sometimes your silence and listening attitude helps him better than your words.
At the same time please intimate it to the child that you would not tolerate disrespect though you care for him and you are always there on his side. Move away when he is either physically or verbally abusive allow him to calm down and then make him understand your support available to him.
Expecting for acceptance immediately is not reasonable. Definitely there is retaliation as acceptance may mean betrayal of biological parent according to the child. Be patient time and your affection and care would bring about the change.
Spend at least 15 mins with each one of them in a day. Spend those moments to have fun and do what both of you enjoy. Even the biological parent can do the same. Enforcement of discipline techniques should be done by the biological parent. Let it be equally done between your children and the others.
Concentrate on strengthening your relationship with the child rather than abusing their biological parents no matter however bad they might have been. This tends to make the child lose respect for you.
Strengthen your relationship with your spouse. This will help you to handle tough situations. Never miss your romances with your spouse. Keep a balance between your family and your marriage. Be peaceful, calm and avoid stress. Talk it out to your friend or a counselor. Always think positive. The blood relationship proves sometimes weaker to the bond built through love and care. Stretch out your heart; be genuine in your actions and your emotions. The key to positive parenting lies right in your hands.
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